I know this because it's happened to me first hand.
W told me she was DONE, that her feelings never change. I got her back!
Believe NOTHING they say and HALF of what they do.
By you carrying your self with dignity, class, and maturity, you are keeping the door open for reconciliation.
He WILL notice this. But it might be a little while for his fog to clear.
I've made the decision for myself that if W wants to leave me, so be it. However, I will do everything in my power to make her regret it. I will handle myseld with dignity and grace.
I will not react. I will not sink to her level. She can implode all she wants, I will rise above.
And when the dust settles, I will still be there standing firm and with my head held high. This is when she will question herself. This is when she might say "what have I done?". And that's when she will become the LBS.
The same thing happened with my ex-wife. We been divorced for 10 years and I could have her back with a simple phone call. And that, my friend, is so empowering.
The universe has a way of balancing the power in things. Right now, he has the upper hand. He cares less than you do. But you will perservere and become the strong one. The power will shift. Trust the process.
It's a marathon, not a sprint. Slow and steady wins the race.
Well, I was going to try to post something helpful and empowering, but I couldn't agree more with what Thornton and Tim are saying.
I know this absolutely stinks and it seems like there really is no way that he is regretting his decision because the video games were something special that the two of you shared. But, he may want to see what your reaction is….don't give him the satisfaction. Because you haven't reached out, gone NC and are GAL'ing, he may just be doing this as a temperature check. Who knows? But, you can't mind read and say he is 100% done. You just can't know that. Honestly, Thornton is right, living a happy, fulfilled life is the best revenge. It seems to be the only way they can see what they are throwing away. Do something for yourself today, Sparks - massage, walk, pedicure, anything to soothe your soul and stay strong. Don't do anything for 48 hours and see how you feel.
M 44 H 46 M 20yrs T 25 yrs S15 S12
ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16
This is just going to be a sh*t day. Getting tested for STDs and this.
M:26 H:32 T:8yrs ILYBNILWY/ "I'm not happy": 2/6/16 D-Day-discovered PA/EA: 2/10/16 Separated: 2/14/16 He's living with OW I moved to different state: 06/16 Currently: Trying to move forward
Yes, I didn't find that testing to be pleasant either. Can you do something for to "treat" yourself today? My IC said that she admires my drive to improve myself, that when I am having a particularly bad day, she would prefer I do something to soothe myself. Like yoga or massage, etc. Do you have something that you can do to make you relax and forget about sitch for a little bit?
M 44 H 46 M 20yrs T 25 yrs S15 S12
ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16
I have class in an hour. IC tomorrow. I'll get myself some sushi (haven't eaten today). But I honestly just feel hopeless. I just keep thinking why is he doing this to me? Haven't I been through enough. Don't believe a word he says but his actions are telling me he's cutting me out of his life for good. I can't run this marathon when he's cut off my legs.
M:26 H:32 T:8yrs ILYBNILWY/ "I'm not happy": 2/6/16 D-Day-discovered PA/EA: 2/10/16 Separated: 2/14/16 He's living with OW I moved to different state: 06/16 Currently: Trying to move forward
You DON'T know that he's out for good. He's out for right now, that's all. Affairs typically don't last, but they aren't over as quickly as we want them to be. Be the woman he'd be a fool to leave. It will confuse him and drive ow crazy!
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
Can you do without the video games, or does it feel like he's just treating you like a doormat? He may be doing this to get a rise out of you, and ignoring it would send a strong message that you are getting a life separate from him.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
