Still hoping for progress

[Thornton]

If she lets someone else be there for her, she wasn't yours to begin with.

[daybyday]

Good point. Hard to swallow, but true.

[Thornton]

Tell me about it...

Time takes time, D. Time will tell how this plays out. But it won't be on your timeline. They say it takes patience, that's an understatement.

The truth is, you are going to be fine. I know it doesn't feel like that right now but it's the truth. You will absolutely get through this and thrive.

Get determined and focused to become the best version of DbyD. If your W doesn't snap out of it in time, some other lucky lady will gladly take her place.

[Vapo]

I know your right T, but it seems so counter intuitive. If I am not there for emotional support, who will be? Someone else will fill that void it would seem. That's the scary part.

I guess if she really cares for me, she will want my support and may then begin to miss it when I withhold. That my friend is scary and will be so hard. I know I can do it if it is the right thing to do.

Are you really prepared to be an "emotional" support for her when (if) she comes to you crying about another man? I know I wasn't and am not and will never will. Fcuk that $hit. You deserve to be with someone who desires to be with you and not someone who you have to beg for attention.

[daybyday]

Hell no. I agree Vapo. I will NEVER put up with that crap. OM will end it for me if that is found out. Not going through that again.

She is going to move out and leave me with a house needing repairs, etc. I am severely resentful of he today. I have so many things I am trying to juggle right now it is just overwhelming. I cant believe i can still move. She is peppy happy talkative. I just want to go off on her so bad.

[broke]

Daybyday,

Don't act on the anger. It will undo all the work you've done up to now. I know it's hard but take the high road. No matter what happens you'll be able to say you did everything you could for your M. Take that anger and go GAL - maybe an intense workout!

[daybyday]

Thanks Broke. Yeah, i know. I dont plan on it. That would just ruin all of my hard work.

It just chaps my butt they these WAS get to cruise away without care of the devastation they are reeking.

[daybyday]

Feeling a little overwhelmed again today. Have to see the dermatologist for many spots on my body. I have had so much going on with sick parents over the past few years that I have neglected my own health. I am afraid of the news that I am going to get. I have had skin cancer surgeries twice before and it is constant.

It was so much more bearable when I had my W by my side. It made me feel like I could get through anything. Even though she would probably be there for me now, after having B dropped on me, I still feel so alone going through what I know will be some trying times medically. It makes me so sad. W didnt even wish me good luck or anything this morning.

I know many people go through much worse than me, and maybe I get some good news, but I am doubtful.

I have always been the quiet, confident guy who people thought had it all together. Then both parents at the same time get extremely ill, one physically and one mentally. That took a toll on our M and my sanity. Now my whole world is crumbling and I can't even seem to get a foothold. I know that my overthinking of situations doesn't help me. But damnit, W knows that I have all this going on and still wants to bail.

I have friends and family who support me tremendously as do you friends on this board. I just wish W was there, like she used to be. Sorry such a downer.

[TimR]

No problem Day that is what we are all here for... to lean on each other. I will pray for good news for you. You made it this far and had surgeries in the past, you got this! Just make taking care of you a top priority. When life gets tough we often neglect ourselves first, make the conscience decision you will take care of you.

[broke]

So sorry you have to go through this, especially without W by your side. I will be thinking of you….you can do this. You've gotten through it before and you can do it again. I know it is hard, but make sure to follow through on anything you need to do to take care of yourself. Please keep us posted.