That stuff is so heavy. I'm sorry you are having to deal with it.
I wish I had some advice for you but everything I come up with has pros and cons and could go either way.
I would recommend starting with S13 and see if you can get him in front of a school counselor. Then maybe call the counselor and ask them what they recommend regarding S16. Explain how this could all blow up if you're not careful and make things worse. Maybe they can provide some insight, I'm sure they have seen this before considering half of marriages end in D.
Hang in there, my friend. You will get through this, it's just going to be bumpy for a while.
I'll try and check back in when I get home tonight, still training the new person at work so I will only be able to get on the board sporadically.
