I did need to blow out all that was in my head. I guess it really bothered me that every time we had positive interactions, it was mostly due to me being fun and cheerful and acting "as if". He could probably feel no pressure or guilt. He could look me in the eye and we could smile together at each other as if nothing was wrong. I'm sure seeing the vacation home without my presence in the form of my stuff gave the opposite effect. It probably showed him it wasn't all ok, and hence the guilt and no eye contact.
We are only selling our home, the one I'm living in. He asked to keep the vacation home, as he has "a cr#ppy apartment" and goes there as much as possible on weekends. I agreed with him keeping it and his office, but was assessing the vacation home because I want him to buy me out.
He did mention for the first time that the vacation home didn't work out the way he'd planned...that neither of our kids think of it as theirs and never go up. They are supporting themselves and often work on weekends..its too far away for a quick day trip. He has never understood this. He mentioned selling it but not being able to right now because of the D.
He has made no effort to move any of his stuff out of our home. I wish he would, as I have been packing up stuff to give to kids, sell, donate, or keep. We're still early in this game, though. I blew off enough steam that I can go back to no pressure on him.
I really appreciate the support you all on this forum give. It has made this journey so much more bearable.
M-51 H-54 2D-27 and 25 M-26 yrs Bombshell and IHS 7-29-15 He moved out 10-3-15 D filed 1-27-16 D final 10-27-16
