[Quote/ jujub]Let's work with what we know. Our husbands are very selfish men. If they want something, what they want will take 1st priority no matter who is hurt (primarily kids). Like you said, if he wanted that party to happen it would happen. I bet if it was about him saving money on taxes, he would be repeatedly phoning and texting and coming by to get your response. Who knows why he brought it up.
Fake it till you make it. Do not call back and ask him anything. It will show your attachment. Forget he even wrote to you.
We both need to detach. Let's do it together.
Remember. We are not winning back these great prizes of a husband. Would you ever knowingly date a man that left his wife and small child for OW? You would probably be instantly turned off by him. So why are you attached to this one?
Would I go for a single parent that is devoted to their child and volunteers with children that have special needs? That person is truly a prize.
We need to look at the reality of who they are. We are the ones in a fog.[/quote]
Jujub wrote this on someone stitch and it was VERY eye opening to me.
I'M in a fog just as much as my H IS..and normally I would be turned off and disgusted by the man. Oh man.
