Getting out of in house S (8)

[vise82]

Hey,

I was tired yesterday, picked up kids from school, let them play outside with the neighbor hood kids. The guy across the street came home and walked down the street somewhere. My kids said hi to him. Every time I see him I want to say something like , hey see the for sale sign you must be happy, or how is my W doing? or how does it feel to help tear a family apart? I want to paint home wreaker on his driveway.

Soon the house will be sold and I will be moving, about five block away. Looking forward to the day I don't have to look at his house ever again.

W worked late and she came home after I fed the kids, She is sitting there messaging away to who know , someonw, then out of the blue she says I have two wedding to go to next month, her brothers and some other girls name.

I never heard of this other girl, so I asked who is that? she said its a girl from her Weight loss group. I didn't say anything more.

Needless to say hearing that hurt me a little. Here I go again with realization that she will be going with out me. Her brothers wedding is bothering me. My kids are going to be in the wedding party, my W will be in the wedding party, and I wasn't even invited. It makes me want to not go to any of there family events, Easter is coming up, I have a choice to do Easter with W side of the family with the kids but how can I? The S is one thing, ok that's between me and my W and how we handle it that's up to us but to not be invited to a wedding that has nothing to do with us. It just seems wrong. And then to say I can go to there Easter dinner? I don't get it. Do I just cut them off? Not go to one thing they invite me to?

I am sure they must have left it up to my W if I was invited to the wedding. When we were married, we invited both sides of divorced couples, maybe they were not at the same table but if they had kids that were there we invited them.

It just bothers me because we do so much together right now, its like she doesn't want me there so her extended family cant see that part of us right now. I mean from the outside it might look like why are they separating?

I am not going to say anything about it. Just leave it as is, not my choice but it just stings a little. If it was my choice I would want to be there, its memories that of my kids that I wont be part of now.

The time line with the house is almost to the one year mark being separated, I will have to see if W just goes for D right now, I mean the lawyer is working on the S then in three months when the house closes, the one year of living S has past and W could file for D.

I don't know where her head is on that. I mean if I am realizing the MR is over, and she is way ahead of me with this. it could be a possibility.

With that said, and we get to separate houses, I am thinking it maybe best to just do holidays separate. I can do my own thing with the kids. I think it would be good for me, for personal growth. Maybe not the best for the kids right now. not sure.