Where do we go from here Part 2

[TimR]

So this is what I need advice on. Please anyone weigh in on it even if you don't feel you have much to say.

Well anyway again I pick up S13 for practice. As usual I see him come out of the house and he just looks miserable. He is quiet most of the way up but starts to say something and then stops. He does this a few times and then is just useless at practice. Another coach at the end asks about when will he start working out like he used to (that kids would push him until he is crying and yet still keeps going). He first says, well I am sick and a certain woman will not take me to the doctor and wont let a certain man take me either.

So since he is been so out of it, I decide to skip my work out and take him home. As we start driving I say to him "I think I am going to give you a couple week break if that's ok with you." He asks why. I say

Me: "Well you are not feeling well and you just don't seem into it. Look you had a great season but it was a rough season. You did 2, two hour practices with a 30 minute break in between three nights a week, had matches two nights a week and then tournaments every weekend. I just think you might feel a bit burned out and need some time away to refresh."

S: "Its not that I feel burned out, its just that I have so much stuff on my mind, I cannot concentrate on wrestling."

Me: "Well what's on your mind. I know if you are like me there is so much stuff that its like a blur and you can't just focus on one thought and try and grab one and just tell me about it."

He proceeds to tell me, how he is worried about me and his mom and it bothers him. And he wants to live with me.

Me: "Well I would like it if you could come live with me too."

S: "No I don't want to live with you sometimes and mom others. I ONLY want to live with you."

Me: "Well your mom loves you and would miss you."

S: "I don't care, I do not like my mom..."

He then proceeds to tell me that she is constantly in a miserable mood and is constantly screaming at him and his brother. Now S13 has a tendency to exaggerate things but its only about himself. However, he begins telling me that he feels real bad for his brother cause she is much meaner to S16 than S13. He continues that he does not want to see his mom or spend anytime with him. I can tell he is crying, and the closer we get to his house the worse it gets.

So what do I do? Here is what I am thinking. First, I think I need to contact the school and get him into a counseling program. However, I need to approach this so it does not come back to me, in case WW attempts to find out why he is in counseling. So I think I call my cocoach and get him to have one of S's teachers refer him to counselling.

After that I think I need to wait for awhile, while he gets counselling. I think if he opens up to them and says the same things he is telling me and apparently others, they will probably have WW come in. They may even ask me to come in. It is also possible they call child services.

Then depending on the circumstances I think I need to file for custody and then approach her about creating something.

Please though if anyone has any ideas let me know. And let me say this is not about custody and getting what I want, this is about his emotional stability and mental health of S. He desperately needs help.