Need practical ideas to aid my 180/Last Resort.WAW

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Thanks for all the info - keep it coming.
Not to worry - both books are safe and computer is password safe.

Yes, the coach said to get her involved in family activities. Not to worry, most of my activities do take place out of the house. I'm trying to take on a few new activities too. Before the "separation" I was moping around the house - now not so much. I am also doing activities with my sons that she nixed before. So life is going on.

Yes, I can see how the super husband can backfire. I've dialed down the amount of house work and meal prep I've been doing. Trying to share the load a little more fairly and not let her off the hook. The house projects may run out of steam as they get done and only major projects that take big $$$ are left. Again, I'm very happy to have them done just for my sake. And yes, I feel like an A$$ for not doing them sooner.

The coach was very clear that my w is looking for consistent and long lasting behavior.

It's becoming regular as I GAL and making changes at home - it's become a habit. So I wonder if these changes will become expectations? Also, what I mean by disrupt is the kind of activities I can do to keep her guessing. I'm keeping busy on my own (seeing friends, sports, etc). I've been turning around the house routines - I just wonder what else I can do.

Thanks for all the great input.