Isn't Mothers Day in May? Also, I am new here too (by no means a vet and I struggle everyday) Listen to these people. Listen to Accuracy. SLOW down, get the basics and work on yourself. You CAN do this, but you have to follow the process. When i was younger and just starting in my career path I once had a mentor that told me something and to be honest it didn't hit me until now. "When all else FAILS, the SYSTEM prevails". This is a process. You didn't get here overnight and you won't fix the core of your issues overnight. It requires lots of patience. You are not doing this to change HER you are doing this to make yourself a better MAN which ultimately makes you a better husband. But the MAN comes first.
