To answer your question about why I regret telling many about my H's PA, it is primarily because it would hurt our chances for reconciliation. I always thought a PA would be a deal breaker for me, so when I thought he was cheating, I didn't think before I told everyone. I just thought I would be done when I knew for sure. But, I was wrong. I would stand for my M and for my family IF he was remorseful and willing to try. Telling lots of people was really because I needed the emotional support but my H sees it as me telling everyone so they hate him, side with me and want to punish him. So, I think it hurts our chances of reconciliation for his pride (i.e. he needs to follow through with D because it was the problems not the A that caused our divorce) and for my pride (after telling all these friends, will they support me if we ever try to reconcile - not looking good right now anyway though).
M 44 H 46 M 20yrs T 25 yrs S15 S12
ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16
