AtlantaDave, I second what SuperDave is saying. Stick around, even if things are going well. Maybe especially then - we can all use input from someone more upbeat than ourselves. OTOH, we'll also be intensely jealous of you. Don't mind us, we're used to living in a desert.
Shock and awe, huh? I think about the only thing that would make much difference would be to actually break up the family. Trouble with that is, it's likely to be a one-way ticket. Definitely a last-resort technique.
I do get what you're saying, though. I've often thought that if the main problem is that W needs very little to fill up her love-tank, and she can get that just by sitting next to me watching TV, then she'll go on blissfully thinking everything's fine as long as I keep doing that. Maybe creating some distance would get things moving. Maybe not. Hmmm... gotta think on that one...
