Hi Ghost. You are sounding better but still not quite where you need to be. Your W has made it clear she is out of the M. If you accept that's how she feels now then you have full control over how you deal with it.
Guilt will not bring her back and if it did , for how long ?
Money issues won't bring her back and if they did , for how long ?
Pity won't bring her back and if it did , for how long ?
Do you get my drift ???
The ONLY way you want W back is if she wants to be with you End of story
Let's say D wants the family to stay together and you tell W this , what's the BEST case scenario ? She stays out of guilt and once D is better W is gone again
i too want my W back and she's being temp testing for almost a year but I act as if and get on with my life Until my W asks to work on a new R then anything else isn't acceptable to me because I'l deserve someone who loves and respects me AMD SO DO YOU I was with W for 25 years and we have 4 kids. Don't sell yourself short , you trying to hold on to the image of W and not who W really is now
Re D , my D15 is similar to your D and I dealt with it and never mentioned to W about her role in it because if W cannot see it for herself then nothing I say will change that I NEVER guilt trip W and deal with everything because I don't want W to be influenced by me because it will only rebound
Just my thoughts G because you need to let go any idea that you can influence your W in a positive way or a quick way.
