Where will we go from here

[CWOL]

I made the mistake of telling lots of people about the PA. Well, if I am being honest, I told lots of people about my suspicions. I didn't really confirm it to many. I wish I wouldn't have, but my IC says I shouldn't have to protect him since it was his mistake. However, while I needed the emotional support at the time, it definitely makes it harder for him to return because of his pride and for us to reconcile because of my pride. Wouldn't recommend it….

Why do you think that's a mistake? I told some of our close friends, but I generally don't volunteer this information. However, if they ask I will tell them the truth. My WW wanted to pretend that OM has nothing to do with her leaving and instead wants to blame MY behavior. However, her emails show that OM had EVERYTHING to do with it, was coaching her through the steps she needed for separation, D, etc. He was actively encouraging her even though he has no plans to be with her.

Like your IC, I don't think you should have to cover for your WH.