Seems like several of the wives are so angry and they are the ones that are leaving. I would try to stick to acting "as if", detaching and GAL'ing. Don't return her anger, try to validate and "as if". Walk away if she insists on bringing you into an angry confrontation. Keep DB'ing - Don't worry about the "scary" stuff (seems just part of the justification for affair and a focus for her anger).

M 44 H 46
M 20yrs T 25 yrs
S15 S12

ILYBINILWY 7/18/15
Move to MBR 9/8/15
Physical Separation 10/10/15
Suspect A 8/2015
Confirm A 12/27/15
D filed by H 2/2/16