Questioning telling her to stay away is normal. I'm pretty sure we all doubt the process at times.
I can tell you every time I have reached out to W or brought up anything regarding R it has made me feel worse. It's been 2 months since I said anything about us because the last time hurt a lot.
After telling her to stay away and then making contact I don't see helping.
You do have the will power, the problem you might be having is letting your thoughts linger on her instead of distracting yourself somehow. I understand it's hard to get out and do things when your feeling down.
If she was considering R was it just words? Has she done anything action based? Like kick OW to the curb?
You can do this NYGal. I fully believe in you!
The person that you will spend the most time with in your life is yourself, so make yourself as interesting as possible.
