Looking for a Spark in the dark 3

[broke]

Sparkles - I say wait on the Fb status. I took off my wedding rings (at his suggestion) and I wish I would've waited and done it when I was less emotional. IMHO I think you want to "force" an interaction with him (I've done this with my H several times and honestly I think he knew I was manipulating him into communicating with me). What if your partner didn't even notice it or reach out? It may make you feel worse….I say that it is still really early. This is a marathon not a sprint and keep doing what you are doing. You are strong and GAL'ing right out of the gate.

I think a lot of us LBS like to control things and want to take action. But, I can honestly say that me pursuing, begging and pleading for reconciliation caused my H to file for D, buy a house and tell the boys we were proceeding with the D. So, why not learn from my mistakes and try something that may work?! It kills me when there is NC and I get that it is even worse for those that don't have forced interaction because of the kids. But, we can do this….I know that I am a better me than 7 months ago and DB'ing has at least made me realize what my next R will look like (with or without H).

You got this, Sparkles, I know you do.