CWOL - I have kids and the DB'ing has actually helped in my situation. I was very angry until I found this site about a month ago (H is in PA). And, I showed that anger all the time. By GAL'ing and trying to improve myself, I have stopped acting on the anger (I am still very angry, but it doesn't do any good for my kids to see it or my hopes of reconciliation). With regards to Mother's Day, she could've asked you to switch days with her? Or, in the future, you both could try to schedule a year out and take that into account….I have Mother's Day and he has Father's Day. It does show her that her actions have consequences - really all she had to do was ask to rearrange the days.
With regards to DB'ing in general, does it work? I don't know but I do know that begging, pleading and pursuing did NOT work in my case. It went on for almost 7 months and my H has filed for D, bought a new house and told our boys that he is proceeding with D. In the last month, I have been DB'ing and we are at least civil to one another and can co-parent effectively. And, I am a way better, stronger person to be in my next R with or without my H. Good Luck!
M 44 H 46 M 20yrs T 25 yrs S15 S12
ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16
