Now, the real work begins...Part III

[broke]

Oh I'm so glad to have you guys! I just laughed out loud. Cheaters anonymous - Love that! It feels good to laugh....and to know I'm not alone when I feel "lifted" when jerk face reaches out. Thank you for being there!

[NYGal]

Oh gosh, I always feel better when I see W - which I haven't in 10 days, but who's counting? Then I always crash afterwards. The important thing, I've found, is not to let on that we crash. Just be upbeat, cheerful, like we actually do have a life! LMAO

[Sparkls]

Haven't seen mine or heard from him.
What I wouldn't give for a text from him that is anything other than "when can I get more of my stuff." I literally haven't gotten anything other than that since I kicked him out on V-day.
Nothing, except a single liked facebook post about weightloss.
Really starting to feel like he's gone for good.

[TimR]

Sparkls kind of shows he is keeping tabs on you.

[Sparkls]

Right after the ILYB day, he kept telling me to go out and do something fun. Like, insisted on it every single day. "Please don't stay in the house all day, go see your friends" etc.
Which, of course, is what GAL is all about. I just cant shake this feeling that he'll use that as justification for leaving. "look how good she is without me, I made the right choice."

[NYGal]

I don't think it works that way. I think they don't want to feel guilty that they've hurt us, but when they see us actually happy? That's a different story.

[broke]

I agree with all of you....when they reach out, it is a high. When they go back to NC, you come crashing down.

Sparkles - I agree with Tim. I know we aren't supposed to mind read, but why not get all his stuff at once? He can keep tabs when he comes in and out.

[Sparkls]

God, I hope you're right. (sorry to highjack for a min there!)

[NYGal]

Spark, you've barely begun. Don't give up. It takes a while. Patience, my friend. (Said as much to you as to me.)

[broke]

Sparkles - hijack away - I always learn something while reading everyone's threads. It is helpful on my thread or someone else's :-)

So, I got another text from H about who has the boys tomorrow night. I am supposed to have them, but he thinks he is supposed to have them. I am too tired to argue and I have had them the last three weekends (because he switched days with me so he could go out of town to golf supposedly). I responded with something like "I have written down that it is my night but they both have activities so it would be nice to have help with it anyway. We can figure it out if you would like to have them". He responds that he has a mtg until 7:30, but he'd like to have them. So, what is the point of having them tomorrow night when I can be home with them and he can't?! Doesn't seem to make much sense.

Over the weekend, it was radio silence for 3 days and, now, today I get two different texting strings. Not sure what to make of it. Actually, I need to stop analyzing it and realize I am trying to read the mind of someone who clearly is messed up in the head. So, I am done. But, again, it lifts you just enough to grip the rope tighter and, then, you come crashing down when there's no communication for days…..grrrr