Great question. I have asked similar before. You will notice that on the success stories board, there is little if any success stories from the HD perspective. The only real success stories seem to always be told from the LD point of view, in effect, from a highly motivated point of view. Unless the LD spouse is EXTEREMLY committed to solving this issue, I would say it appears to be hopeless. As Dr. Harely said on his web site to a HD women, "Feel really fortunate that you have learned to love sex, half the women out there don't". In effect, it is a crapshoot when us guys get married. Half of us are going to marry women that are capable of being the women that we need them to be, and the other half are going to make our lives h#ll. The success of a marriage is directly related to the difference in desire for sex (according to Dr. Harley). Great marriages usually don't have any issues with sex.
But hey, I'm not going anywhere for a while, so I will continue to fight the odds and hope that a ND spouse can actually "CHANGE".
