Mleigh - you are such a good mom! What a blessing that your son is not centered on material things.
One of my friends has a super creative boy. The world will hear about him someday. I am sure! She bought him a professional microphone, like one radio professionals use (it was his only XMAS gift) and kids go over there and make tutotorials on Mods in Minecraft. She is quite savvy and told him he cannot use Star Wars music or Disney stuff in his videos, etc. She told him to watch his language and to know, that whatever he creates will be out there. He has risen to the challenge and they have made amazing videos. My son has learned a lot from making these videos!! I have been over there and there is much free flow of ideas, negotiating, editing, etc. It's certainly not mindless. Your h might be thinking of video games of old. If he saw it in action he would probably respect it more!
Thinking of you.
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
Thank you for the kind words Hawho. What a great gift for your friends son! I know all about the tutorials for mods. S watches those all the time. My S has never been a "kid" I mean, he plays, he has fun, but it seems basic things bore him, he likes to be challenged and loves technology.
I thought of your H today, and the tantrums he has had with your sons. They sure take things personal. I noticed my H wearing some pretty snazzy jeans today. The pockets had a silver shiny design on them, almost like a girls. I could swear they were bedazzled! Lol. Definitely still in replay. I haven't seen him wear this stuff in a long time. It is almost like he has gone backwards recently.
Did your H change his clothes style?
Me 48 H 46 S 11 M 2004 BD 8/13 H moved out 2/15 -live in the present, enjoy the beauty around and within you, explore your new future-
Bedazzled jeans?!? You have AMAZING patience. I could not keep a straight face through that one.
Actually my did not change his clothes nor his hair. He did change his shoes though, to a hipper style, but nothing outrageous. He went back to listening to music he listened to through college. The same CDs over and over again. As I mentioned before, his whole diet changed. Things he used to love to eat he suddenly hated. And he started eating obscure foods and taking weird supplements. On a few occasions even his gait changed, too. He kind of sauntered. He was suddenly interested in movie themes he used to hate, like Woody Allen's films.
Oh and he did have the kids do their chores today. He remembered it all on his own. He joked through it all. He told the kids he wanted their bathroom to sparkle. I thanked him for helping me.
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
Sparkly jeans??! Maybe some of those fit flops next?? Actually, my H bought a black t-shirt that was solid fabric on the bottom and mesh on the top. It was hilarious - and it think it would go well with those jeans...
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
Lol. You guys gave me a great laugh this morning! I think H did see the look on my face.....
Great about the chores Hawho! I sat son down last night. I started out by saying he has done nothing wrong, I am very proud of him and this is not punishment. I told him we live in a big house and it's hard to take care of by myself, so I really need his help. I showed him the list and asked if there are some things he can help me out with. He read it over and he picked several. It went well
Have a good Monday!
Me 48 H 46 S 11 M 2004 BD 8/13 H moved out 2/15 -live in the present, enjoy the beauty around and within you, explore your new future-
h came back from one trip and was dropped off at the office dressed like a model out of GQ magazine with the sport coat, scarf and sunglasses. It was funny to watch the expression on people's faces since he usually wore jeans, a knit shirt and sneakers at the office.
(He's dropped the jet-set look around here and has gone back to normal clothes when he's here.)
His latest thing is shoes and all the necessities to keep them looking sharp at all times.
Oh, and the different underwear ... Yup.
Me: 59 and holding H: :53 Me: 1 S, 1 D, both grown M: 19 T: 23 BD: 9-23-2013
Here's another one for you to make you laugh. When my xh was on the run, he purchased sneakers with the lights in the heel/souls. Yep, just like the little kiddies and teenagers!
BTW, I'm glad things went well w/the list. I think your son will step up to the plate and help you out...but if he gets criticized for the way he does things, he may very well stop, i.e., his father and granny dearest need to validate, not criticize.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Job - surely no!! Do they even do those sneakers in adult sizes??
MLeigh - good for you getting your S more involved with the chores. I'm sure that will be good for him and he'll be pleased to help his Mum. You could always have a deal that screen time can start when chores are done!
Glad you will be getting a little more help xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
Evidently my xh has a small foot and was able to get a teenager's shoe and let me tell you, I died laughing when he wasn't looking and that gum chewing. LOL!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Too funny you guys. This just came up on my thread too. My H is in skinny jeans and thongs, sporting S15 sneakers--Converse!! It is a sight to behold
Me 47 H 49 S18 S15 M 21 BD #1 11/09/15 ILYBNILY I believe we are Piecing 1/2/16 Suspect EA/PA? 2/28/16 BD #2 "He tried, but needs passion." 2/28/16 Confirm PA 3/11/16, he's leaving in June H leaves 5/7/16
