Baby steps

[Painter]

Ah, okay - thanks for the clarification. I was curious if you saw something I didn't see in my post.

I've probably been controlling, too - I think sometimes marriages come together when we look for certain traits in each other to balance out our own, but then we start to dislike it. I know for instance that my H initially loved that I was capable and could take care of things, because it freed him up from having to deal with many problems. Then he got resentful because he felt I was managing things too much and he didn't have enough say.

On the other hand, I liked his laid-back and relaxed attitude, but then felt he become irresponsible and selfish.