You are correct. I was trying to address the issues in our R prior to her EA, but you are right, we are past that now. If/when she makes a statement about her not trusting me should I simply validate with something like, "I am sorry that you feel that way" (would love some other thoughts on validation statements) or should I assert myself and not let her play the victim. Based on Rule #23, I am thinking I should just validate.
Thank you for reminding me that right now my 180's are for the most part about making myself a better person for me.
