Busy weekend with D13 birthday / sleepover, which went very well. W and I worked well as a team, which has always been the case in busy activities like this. Not much time left for talking about R or anything else really...

I'm about to start 2 weeks of work travel, which may be a good time for me to re-group. Family life has been super busy last few months, especially with GAL and DB challenges. I feel like I really need to reset on goals as things feel like they've stalled. I'm feeling better about myself, and my improved relationship to my family. I've gotten positive feedback from WAW about my changes, so I feel like I've done a lot to debunk what the DB Coaches tell me of the WAS feeling like you're someone easy to walk away from and you need to prove that wrong in bringing (back) the real / better you.

BUT still no re-committment from my WAW about doing more to improve our R. I guess to be fair, she's been participating in MC, but only in so far as verbalizing that we need enough of a working R given our kids. I believe her actions over last month show she's re-thinking a little, but I still feel like our R is in limbo, and its frustrating in trying to make future plans. That is, we're in this friendly, platonic roommate situation that isn't sustainable long term from my perspective.

I feel like I need to re-access goals and strategies mid term, so I can better judge if R is changing, and what direction I'd like it changing in, that is not to just fall back into comfortable patterns of old that will most likely lead back to a R crisis again in the not too distant future...


Me 48 W46
S16 D13 D10