Stay strong buddy. Remember if W grabbed more stuff it is just stuff, it is not a message to you or a means of communication.
Thinking of places where we have memories can be hard and can lead us to doubts about the future, which only will depress us. Keep your sights set on you and improve yourself. Think of creating some new memories with D and friends.
I challenge you to go out one night this week with some friends, could be just a quick coffee at the café or beer at the bar or dinner. But I hear you going out with D and getting to the gym, but get out there with a friend. We are going to hold each accountable, so lets push each other socially like we would at the gym.
Me 41 W 33 M 2013 Suspect A 11/15 Confirm A 1/16 She moved out 2/14/16 Stepson 13 Stepson 16
I just remember the first time we split up. After we got back together, she told me she didn't grab all of her things because she knew if she did, that it would symbolically be the end of our relationship.
It's kind of an unspoken rule for us. Grab all your things, and there are basically zero ties anymore.
I'll try to get out with a friend this week, thanks for the push.
Well I went to our house to grab some things (Haven't been there in a week), and she hasn't grabbed any more of her things. She lives 5 minutes away.
I know she's been there because she has left me my mail on the kitchen table. I know, no mind reading but it does make me wonder what is going on in that pretty little head of hers.
My best guess is she is waiting me out. She wants me to tell her I'm done waiting around and to get her stuff out. That way she doesn't feel guilty and look like the bad guy.
Afterwards, I met with IC. He thinks I'm doing really well and he likes I have thrown myself into recovery. It feels good to hear something encouraging considering the sh!t storm I'm going through.
All in all, I'm hanging in there. I miss W and D8 like crazy but I know I have zero control over her and what she decides to do with her life.
In the meantime, I'm focusing on eating really healthy and working hard in the gym. Each week my goal is to break through another plateau.
Hey that is great news. You had been quiet today so I was worried. Try not to mind read. I could be that she wants you to be the bad guy but it could also mean she has not completely left you yet.
Great GALing, you truly are an inspiration.
Me 41 W 33 M 2013 Suspect A 11/15 Confirm A 1/16 She moved out 2/14/16 Stepson 13 Stepson 16
That's great news, Thornton! You seem so healthy and on the right track today. I am so glad for you. Don't worry about her stuff and don't contact her to get it. Just keep doing what you are doing - focusing on you and your recovery. Obviously, it is working! I hope you will continue to string good days together. You deserve it!
M 44 H 46 M 20yrs T 25 yrs S15 S12
ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16
2 good days in a row is great! I have not gotten there yet.
Eating healthy and working hard in the gym is an awesome thing to Do. Its a win win. Look good, feel good. I'm just now trying to workout harder and get out of my rut.
You seem like you are on a good roll. Hopefully it keeps going on for the rest of this week!
Had a decent day. Work has been incredibly busy so that definitely keeps my mind off of things.
After work, I hit the gym and worked as hard as I could. Feel good to get the blood pumping.
Afterwards however, I fell into a funk. I started thinking about W moving on and meeting someone else. I have no reason to believe this is the case as I am completely pitch black NC. But my mind wandered a little bit and I started spinning.
I was eventually able to slow it down and regain my composure.
I also wonder if I will EVER talk to W again. I feel like she would never be able to face me again.
It would be pretty tragic if we were together 5 years, gone through everything we've gone through, planned our future and accomplished our goal of getting a house together to suddenly never talking again.
I know I have no control over it. But it would really blow me away.
It's hard sometimes to stay in the present. I want to know what my future holds and what it looks like. I miss having a companion and someone to laugh with. W and I were very silly with each other, we really did have a lot of fun together and had tons of inside jokes.
In the meantime, I'll stay on my path. It's lonely and it's all uphill, but I hope I to come out a better man. And I hope I can be a better partner whether that be with W or someone else.
You are really on the right path. I am so impressed with how much you have grown and you have the best attitude.
I know you are down, but you are not out. You are still NC, GAL'ing in the midst of being in a funk. Keep it up - you are going to be the best version of yourself for the next relationship with or without W (but, I have to say you are pretty great right now, so the next partner is a lucky gal :-).
M 44 H 46 M 20yrs T 25 yrs S15 S12
ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16
