JksD, I saw your post in Newcomers, and want to address friend v. neighbor. For a long time I was ready to be friends with Mr. Perfect, I had given up on being his W, and thought we could move into a friendship. But he never wanted that, I don't know why. Maybe he saw it as my holding on, maybe he just doesn't want to be around me. So we are now co-parents and that's it. We co-parent very well together, but have no interaction beyond that. I'd still prefer to be friends, but have a full, rich, busy life without him.
