Now, the real work begins...Part III

[broke]

Thornton,

Thanks for checking in. I was a "professional" before I had the kids. Then we decided that I'd stay home. My H even discouraged me from going back to work, so I went back to school and got my Masters in Education. I think before I was motivated to learn and move myself forward. When the boys came along, I was happy to make them the center of my universe (but that took a toll on my M I can see now). I think my H no longer respected me as a stay at home mom. The OW is basically a "blond" me 10 years younger back when I was in finance. Similar personality from what I'm told.

I've made tons of changes in the last 7 months to get back to focusing on me and what I want out of my life, especially since the kids are headed to college in 3-5 years. But, H doesn't really see it because of the detaching. He seems pretty content with NC. He's busy with the OW I think. So busy, in fact, he didn't text or contact his children for 3 days. Finally, he reached out this morning. So, I've got to do what's best for me and my sons whether he comes out of the affair fog or not.

If I'm being honest, my H never really made his family a priority. I shouldn't be surprised that he went 3 days without communicating with the kids. His first OW was his job and chasing success. And, right now, when the kids try to talk to him about the D, he brushes them off. It's just frustrating to watch him be so selfish when the boys are hurting so much.

But, today is a new day. The weekend was good unless I try to figure out what the H was up to. So, instead I'm going to focus on me and my kids. There's still much to be grateful for.