Those are awesome goals. And attainable if you put yourself to the test.
Physically lighter and stronger - sounds like gym time and a healthy diet are in order. You can start on that one tomorrow. Discipline.
Tobacco - I know this one is a doozy, especially when stressed. Start small and begin with trying to slowly taper for now. Aim for one less cig or dip a day (not sure if you smoke or chew).
Less judgmental - This takes awareness. My IC taught that half the battle is simply being aware. Keep it in the forefront of your mind when interacting with people and allow it to become habit.
Listening - awareness
Organized and cleaner - set aside 20 minutes a day dedicated to tidying up. You'll be amazed at what you can clean up in 20 minutes. Discipline.
Patience and more aware of other people's feelings - awareness. Ask people how they are feeling. It's that simple, ask them.
Husband duties - we'll work on that one when the time is right.
Communication and better understanding - Awareness and slowing down. Catch yourself when you start to think of responses before the other person is finished talking. I'm guilty of this too.
Tim, you have an opportunity to change your life for YOU. You have time now to take advantage of it. Seize it!
And when you do these things ^^^.... Your life will change and you will attract different people into your life, good people. Hell, your W might even take notice because you are oozing this new sense of confidence and well being.
You have an opportunity right now, we all do. I'm sure as hell not going to squander my opportunity to change, even if it hurts like hell.
Let's go, Tim. We can hold each other accountable.
