Rouky, I understand what happened... They start to open up a little, and then we jump on it with reconciliation. And it never works. I did same thing, numerous times.
Let's make this time different for both of us...
I am telling myself if and when husband wants reconciliation, he will have to make effort to set it in motion. If he does not inititiate on his own, it's an indicator that he won't work on it. For the marriage to succeed both have to work on it. They know where we are if they want it.
In the meantime, we have to detach and get on with our lives. I am trying to emotionally withdraw and go numb now. Stonewall...when he temperature checks, (which he will )I need to Continue with being detached.
Why do we even want them back? Do their actions make them these big prizes to win back? NO WAY! We actually need this distance too, so we can determine whether we want to be with these people. We need to get out of our own fogs. Cause they are not really based on reality either.
