I know it's hard to think about all this stuff. And our minds tell us that if we could just say the right thing, at the right time, then we could snap them out of their fog.
It doesn't work that way because we aren't dealing with someone using logic.
I think the trick is giving them space and time to realize that maybe, just maybe, they made a mistake. And by moving on with our lives, we turn the tables on the WAS's. We become the WAS and THEY become the LBS.
While we are going through such intense pain and despair, we start to question our self worth. Why weren't we good enough? This is all a lie that we tell ourselves. We ARE good enough, in fact, we are better than the WAS because we stand by our convictions. We don't quit when things get hard. We deserve better. Everyone knows relationships are hard, the D rate is over 50%. But we still CHOOSE to work for it. We CHOOSE to not give up. We CHOOSE love. We CHOOSE loyalty.
Not everyone shares this type of character, Sparks. And if our WAS's want to walk away, we must let them go. Because we can't make them think like us. We can't make them loyal. And we can't make them love us.
But what we can do is move on, and live our lives with integrity and honor. And when we do that, the stars will align, and we will meet who we are supposed to be with. Maybe that's our WAS, maybe not. But we deserve better than what we are getting.
Take control of your life, Sparks. Chase your dreams. And don't take sh!t from anyone!
