Long time

[Nel]

H has stopped contacting me via text. The only time we interact is after D17 games and now those are done. The funny thing is when we are face to face, he seems to really want to talk about a lot of different inconsequential things that are going on. It's hard to remember that he doesn't want to be married anymore because it's so NORMAL.

He told me that next weekend, he will be attending D17's two day travel tournament with his mom. I am always with D17 at these. H has only gone to one so far this year. It will give me two whole days to interact with him....or should I stay away? It's such a fine line.

I'm hoping that because he's spending an extended time with his mom (which he rarely does), that maybe she can bring some clarity to the situation, especially to his childhood and help him heal. Their family doesn't talk about much, but I know that she is really disappointed in him walking away from me. H's dad left the family when H was 12 and he had to become the man of the family. He had to grow up quick. He had to work and take care of his 5 younger siblings while his mom worked to put food on the table. From the stories H told me, it was a horrific time for the family. He no longer has any type of relationship with his dad. It would be great if his mom could help him with this, but I'm not going to hold my breath because she isn't one to push him. I know she is heartbroken and knows that this isn't what I want. I hope she can help him.

Nel