So, I am siiting in my bedroom when H comes home. I don't bother jumping up to greet him. But he comes to find me. He gives me a peck on the lips. Conversation: hows things, hows boys, he's tired, trip was long, yada yada yada. He goes sees boys and I get up to do laundry and he hugs me on way back in. Asks me if I have lost more weight. I have. Says he is really tired and going to nap. Ok-- I am on my way out with S15.
He is acting like nothing!! Like nothings wrong, like nothing happened, like he never sent an email saying he tried, but it just ain't working for him. WTF!!??
And ditto this morning. Wow. At least I remembered to walk away first.
Job-- omg. Cross dressing? I would 'lol' that but thats not even funny. My H had a full body wax ( and I mean FULL), is tanning and whitening his teeth. Wearing some skinny jeans. So of course you have to wear thongs with skinny jeans. You don't want a panty line!
I can do this roommate thing. Its how I started DBing. Does that mean no laundry, ironing? i am in a pickle over this one, as it was one of my 180s. Well, I always did all the laundry but not ironing. If I stop, it will justify his " see, you were just doing it to keep me from leaving."
The problem is that you're trying to make sense of the random crazy ramblings of a person in a full blown MLC. You won't understand their craziness because you're sane. I was you. I gave up trying to make sense of it and filed for D. For us that did the trick. Not saying it would work for others, we'll all different. Even though our crazy MLC spouses might follow some of the same patterns, they're still different people and might respond differently to things you do.
When I was supportive and told her I'm waiting and that I love her, that didn't work. She took it for granted and kept acting crazy. When I really truly gave up then she snapped out of it.
I'd love to tell you what to do but I really can't. I will say, don't read too much into anything he says right now because he's in an MLC so he's not sane at this moment.
Just be the best you that you can be. Go ahead and plan on moving on. Envision what that looks like. Make plans toward it. That might scare him straight.
