They do tend to have short tempers and can explore at a moment's notice. Why? Because things aren't going along as they think they should be...never mind that most of the time, they are the ones that made the mess to begin with. It's everyone's fault and not there. Amazon is very good about shipping, but they can't send Santa or the Easter Bunny out to drop the package off within a day. Problem is...time, time gets away from them and they don't realize that the special data is right there in front of them. They don't plan ahead because everything is spur of the moment.

I agree, I think your h wanted you and your son to call mommy dearest and make up and this was the way to do it. However, I'm glad your son called and thanked them...but, I'm also glad he didn't have to speak to her. He doesn't need that crazy making in his life right now.

I think you are doing a wonderful job of handling your situation. Your h has got a lot of baking to do before he'll come out of the MLC oven.

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.