I would stay the course for a while longer w/respect to the laundry. You don't want to change up your actions too quickly. However, if you prepare dinner and he's not there, eat and put the leftovers in the fridge. Don't wait on him to do anything. If there are things that he can do himself, slowly wean yourself off of doing them. May suggest that he help out a bit w/chores once in a while. But don't stop cold turkey or he'll swear you are doing things to get him back.
BTW, they experiment a lot during the crisis. Some of the things they do will curl your hair up in knots! I could share more of what I've seen on here...but you'll get a good idea as you continue to post and read.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
