It never fails. Feeling good about it all and I get a text from W. We used to watch suits together and we both loved it. When season 5 "ended" we were both excited for the next episodes. That was probably a year ago. And now there are new ones. She texted me new episodes of suits!! And I don't know how to reply.
It was something we shared and I don't know if I can watch them without her right now. It drags up tears I thought I had long shed... Will she feel the same or watch it with OM like its nothing.
On the other hand she felt she needed to tell me when I assume she is with OM. I could play that I was asleep from a busy day or I could try to engage her. My mind says go to bed. My heart says talk to her.
The person that you will spend the most time with in your life is yourself, so make yourself as interesting as possible.
I'm not a great person to give you advice here since you'e got a month on me. But it could be a temp-check thing. If it were me and she is with OM, I would just ignore it. Or say something very benign like "Thank you for letting me know." She knows this is something you guys did. It means she's thinking about you enough to remember that you wanted to watch the next season. If she is genuinely second guessing, she will keep trying to contact you. It'll become more obvious. Maintain the mystery.
The poke the bear option (which I wouldn't recommend) is to say "Yeah I already watched them." :-p
But hang tough. I Feel you, H and I watched the walking dead. WE stopped this last season (now I know why) but if he texted me about it, it would throw me through a loop too.
M:26 H:32 T:8yrs ILYBNILWY/ "I'm not happy": 2/6/16 D-Day-discovered PA/EA: 2/10/16 Separated: 2/14/16 He's living with OW I moved to different state: 06/16 Currently: Trying to move forward
I did reply. Said oh cool a new season? She told me a couple episodes. I said oh nice. And that was it.
I am a bit interested to see how this week goes. I don't know how much she is going to be contacting me as she will be away from the boys for the longest she ever has. She made a comment that I shouldn't be surprised if she wants to talk to them often and how 10 days is going to be hard.
Ya it is. I just did almost 3 weeks. Granted i chose it by going away last weekend and studying the weekend before but it was something I had to do. I don't want to inflict pain on her or make her feel bad and I try my to have expectations either way as to how she will act or feel.
Maybe she is getting a sense that I am moving forward. Would I try to work on us right now. Probably. There would be a lot of hesitation and ground rules. As opposed to a month ago when I would have jumped at the chance. In another month who knows. Maybe I will be done maybe I won't.
Thanks for stopping in sparkles. Cooking for yourself is tough, try doing what I said and putting on some music and dancing around, throw in some new spices on old dishes and see how it works out. It's 30-45 minutes of focus that usually results in something delicious
The person that you will spend the most time with in your life is yourself, so make yourself as interesting as possible.
Yeah cant tell if it is a temp check or not. My WW does the something similar out of the blue, she will send a text about nothing. Also while I try to stay very business and short with the text she will keep it going a bit. I know this is speculation but you gotta wander during those brief instances whether they truly are thinking about you, missing you or just making sure you are still a viable plan b. Either way I have found that days after the text, I am constantly looking at my phone wandering why she hasn't sent a new ones. Really it is more painful to have sporadic contact than NC.
BTW, I can't cook for sh!t but make a mean egg sandwich!
Me 41 W 33 M 2013 Suspect A 11/15 Confirm A 1/16 She moved out 2/14/16 Stepson 13 Stepson 16
I have the entire season of "Homeland" recorded but I cannot bring myself to watch it because the H and I always watched it together. So, it just sits there in the DVR haunting me.
It is such a minefield of emotions. It is hard to know if it is a temperature check or not. I felt like my H was reaching out this week for silly things, so I only responded if absolutely necessary. Been radio silence since Thursday and I hate it. I agree with you - just when you think you are getting more okay with the separation, then you hear from them. And, like Tim said, it is so hard to hear from them and then get nothing. Especially when you are accustomed to talking to them everyday. It makes you crazy and then the mind-reading and fortune-telling start.
I hope you were able to get past the text and just enjoy your boys. It sounds like you are having a wonderful time with them. There is nothing better than spending quality time with your kiddos during this struggle. Enjoy every minute you have!
M 44 H 46 M 20yrs T 25 yrs S15 S12
ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16
Thanks guys. Ya I'm iver it. I actually feel more detached today than before. So much I may watch the show.
I did notice yesterday that W has totally blocked me on FB. I was looking at a memory we were tagged in and her name isn't highlighted. So I searched for her and nothing comes up. And honestly. I don't care. It makes me laugh that she felt she had to do that. It's childish in my eyes.
I wish I could put a pic up in here. s3 and I built a tank out of cardboard boxes this morning. And tho I am no engineer it is awesome. It took us 2 hours to build. Then like all 3 year olds was bored with it by the time we were done and into something else. Haha.
The person that you will spend the most time with in your life is yourself, so make yourself as interesting as possible.
That's harsh about FB, Tyler. I've started posting stuff on my page just so it looks like I actually have a life!! this was after about 4 months of posting nada. I'm on day 8 of no dumb house or silly "is this spam" emails from W. No texts, no calls, no sightings. I hate it. But since this is new, I'm hoping it might have a better outcome. I've heard from someone who posts on here that she and her husband are reconciling! I've asked her to summarize her story and what worked. Her comment to me was, if her H could come back, anyone could. So let's keep the faith, guys!
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
That would be welcome news. I would love to hear about a success story!
Tyler,
Glad you are feeling more detached. I felt similar over the weekend. I am just hoping the feeling isn't temporary! Facebook adds a whole different layer to all of this. It just makes it so much more complicated. I am glad you were able to ignore it and move on.
I wish we could see your tank, too! I hope you have lots more fun things planned with your boys!
M 44 H 46 M 20yrs T 25 yrs S15 S12
ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16
I'll bet the person whose husband turned around is afraid of jinxing it. I hope she posts soon! We all could use a good reconciliation story, for sure.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
