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Hi Bright! I've been lurking...but I thought I'd weigh in as someone who still likes to help my H once in awhile. I agree with everyone else; if it is what you would do for a friend, if he's not taking advantage of you, and if you feel just fine about it, then go ahead. We're not trying to punish our spouse or cause them to think they were smart to leave. I think if we leave them with good memories of each interaction, then they are going to have a harder time remembering why it was they needed to run in the first place.