Whereas most women would love to have an understanding H, IMHO, your actions in trying to show her your niceness and understanding....could be irritating a very sore spot for her. If you feel that you can't do anything without her resenting it, you aren't far off base.
Maybe you could try to just show her civility, when she contacts.
Resentment and bitterness is a terrible thing. It changes a person. She will have to "want" to let of it, and then she will have to actually "do it". My spiritual belief tells me that in order to let go of those feelings, I must forgive the person(s) and not permit myself to dwell on those things which brought me those feelings. I must let go of things in the past and focus on what keeps my heart free of those type of attitude sins.
She has not reached the point of wanting to let go of the resentment and bitterness. Some people say they've tried but can't forget. Others say they don't know how. But I say, they never wanted to let it go.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
