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[quote=CWOL]A mediator is used when both sides usually agree on the split, or at least agree on who gets what. Normally, a L is used for child custody when sides can't agree. Usually, most people agree who's DVD's are who's, who gets the pots and pans, etc. Like Thornton said, they're unbiased and don't have a dog in the hunt.

The lawyers on the other hand can vary greatly. Depends on what you want.

Since the W wants everything, and a little bit more, she's got a L. I've now found out she'll do and say whatever it takes to get what she wants.

I'm fine with not lying - as I've got truth on my side. Truth comes in the form of texts and emails that contradict the W's statements.

And you're right - Lawyers get in between the 2 of you. That's never a help if you do want to split amicably. My W's L seems to be egging her on - but then it's more money for him. In the end, the only winners will be the L's.

After my discussion on the CC with WW, it's going to be hard to get her to understand. She relies on her L in order to know every little step to take. Like the CC example, for a $2K bill it will cost both of us $2K in legal fees to settle. She gets emotional too, and her sense of entitlement is ridiculous.

Now we are discussing custody for S11. What are your suggestions for best way to do 50/50? We are thinking alternating weekends and split during the week. But the key is stability for the child, right?

All of these things $uck big time.