Well meaning friends who just "want us to be happy" don't get it like we do. They ARE well meaning, but they aren't in our relationships. Even my WW said the same thing-we shouldn't listen to what other people say necessarily because they aren't in our relationship. They don't know.

Four months into it I still sometimes feel like I just got the call saying someone I love has been killed in a car crash or something. The pain is so raw and so real and so immediate. It's impossible to understand if you're not experiencing it. We get it. We understand. We're here for each other. And we don't have to give up until we decide to. I like the phrase moving forward rather than moving on. I'm making changes I need to make to be happy(ish), but I'm not moving on. Not yet. And if friends don't understand why I can still love her and be willing to forgive her, well, they aren't in our relationship and they just don't get it.

11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker
Reconciling since late April 2016
Don't give up until it's time, then move on
Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat