Rednail: Dropping the rope

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Red,
so many of us here feel your pain. I too thought MLC, but as I've learned here - an A can cause very similar symptoms. Is my W having a MLC at almost 60? Yes, because they feel like kids again. She's doing things I wish she had done for me - or with me. I was never, ever on her about her weight or her looks. She was perfect in my eyes.

Like Tim, what really ticks me off is ignoring his own kids. He's gone from morally bankrupt to just destructive. I'm so very sorry for your children.

We were never able to have children - and I can't even start to imagine having wanted them so badly abandoning them.

I'd love to say it gets better with time, but only being 2 months into it I can vouch it gets worse.

I've added a lot of people to my prayer list since coming here, and you're on it now as well - and your lovely children.

Think about you - and think about your children.

I once heard someone say that they considered their ex dead. They grieved for the loss, the pain, and the situation, but then let it go to rest. It kind of makes sense as that person you are grieving over, is no longer around. He or she is gone. I will pray for you and your journey wherever it takes you. Hugs and love Red!!

This is so true - my W is a different person. She just flicked a switch and "bang" the moment she filed for D, it was as if she murdered the woman I married. One day she was there, the next gone. I got her legal response yesterday, and I didn't recognize the person writing. It was so bizarre. I've lost a lot of friends in the past few years, and now another. My best friend in the world.

Is there a chance of resurrection? In some cases yes. In some cases, no. But you can't wait around hoping for miracles. You've got to move on for you and your kids. You are blessed to have them, and they you.

We're all pulling for you Red. You can do it, and thrive.