Need help please

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albac,
as you go through these threads you'll get an idea of who stands a chance, and who is toast - or at least has a very long, ugly road.

Honestly, you guys are so young and new - I swear I went through this with my W. This all sounds pretty sane, and nothing scary that I see.

Read and re-read the DR. Use it. Do Cadet's homework. There's an awful lot of hope for you - I'd trade places in a heartbeat. If only to be 30 again!

Do the disconnect, do the as-if's, do the 180's where applicable. Let her pursue. You've got the advantage of time (I don't), and you are communicating (I'm not).

You've got your D to think about - every thing you're about to go through is for not only you, but her. Remember though, you've got to put your oxygen mask on first.

Disclaimer: Don't listen to a work I'm saying because I screwed up a 30 year marriage - or let it get screwed up. Do listen to me when I say you're in the right place, and the best people in the world are right here.