Does anyone have experience using a divorce mediator? I'm wondering if that's a better option than the current process which is guaranteed to p*ss off both sides.
CWOL, I'm in agreement with Thornton - although I've not used one.
I had actually expected a mediator when the W started floating the D word but instead she lawyered up and filed out of the blue.
A mediator is used when both sides usually agree on the split, or at least agree on who gets what. Normally, a L is used for child custody when sides can't agree. Usually, most people agree who's DVD's are who's, who gets the pots and pans, etc. Like Thornton said, they're unbiased and don't have a dog in the hunt.
The lawyers on the other hand can vary greatly. Depends on what you want.
Since the W wants everything, and a little bit more, she's got a L. I've now found out she'll do and say whatever it takes to get what she wants.
I'm fine with not lying - as I've got truth on my side. Truth comes in the form of texts and emails that contradict the W's statements.
And you're right - Lawyers get in between the 2 of you. That's never a help if you do want to split amicably. My W's L seems to be egging her on - but then it's more money for him. In the end, the only winners will be the L's.
Me: 58 Her: 59 Kids: 0 Dog: 1 ILYBINILWY: 9/15 D Bomb: 1/11/16 (found out filed) Verified OM: 1/11/16 Moved out: 1/11/16 (thought it was temporary)
