Vanilla, this is exactly what I'm wondering - I'm worried I'm not going about this correctly. I still don't feel that pursuing will do me any good but I do think my W is looking for interaction between us, to see if I'll help her out from time to time, to treat her better than I have in the past, to give her some attention, to be her friend and not her enemy (had gotten this bad in the past) and just show her I care. I think I can do this if I don't pursue yet listen and validate what she is saying and simply don't be defensive. That is a start - we still have a lot past issues to deal with but we need a more positive day to day interaction.
Just now my W and I were talking and she said 'hopefully we can at least be friends after all of this' and I responded 'hopefully more than friends' which she responded 'I'm not very optimistic about it' which hurt but instead of chasing after her to talk about it I left it. She may just be sounding off still since our MC meeting yesterday was such a disaster. In any case, I didn't think it would do me any good to try and talk to her about it. That said, my W just left to go meet the new MC (one on one), my one on one is next week, so I'll get an update when she gets back. I don't expect much though as for this meeting they just let you talk the entire time.
What's the difference again between a wayward wife and walk away wife?
