Oh, Red, don't be so hard on yourself. You're still very fresh to finding out about OW. Everyone slips up and does things that they shouldn't. You just need to learn from it and move forward.
It hurts tremendously. Who wouldve known that emotional pain could feel so physical?! We can't always be thinking clearly. Keep focusing on yourself and your kids. You really are doing amazing with your db'ing. You are very strong. Pick yourself back up, do something special for yourself and start over.
Thinking of you.
M 44 H 46 M 20yrs T 25 yrs S15 S12
ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16