If it is a control issue she will figure out soon enough that she no longer has any.

Don't let others influence you. They don't have to walk in your shoes.

And ENJOY that trip.

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together