Yes. Very hard. It's like watching a plant grow in your house. You don't see the growth because you see it everyday. But, if you were to live elsewhere and visit, that would be the first thing you notice. How much that plant has grown. Same thing with in house S.
Fight the good fight no matter the quality of your opponent.
Me-50 WAW-45 S13 Married 24 years Bomb 1-Jan.2008 Disc. EA She came back for 8 years Bomb 2-Jan-2016 Separation 3-12-2016
I guess my problem is that I moved out a month ago, and i'm planning to move back in this weekend. mainly because I realized that if she wants out she can leave.
T12 M10 S 5 S 7
Me-LBH, 44 Spouse-WAW, 41 Married for 9 years S, 7 S, 5 BD - November 20th 2015
while i agree you should not have left, but i hope you arent thinking things will be easy when you get back. She is going to resent you for this most likely.
Is she aware yet? Doe she plan on leaving?
M 37 W 34
T 12 M 8 D 7 S 4
Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15
She's not aware, I'm actually not asking. It will be during the day when she's there. All I took was a suit case. Yes I'm sure she's going to be resentful.
Me-LBH, 44 Spouse-WAW, 41 Married for 9 years S, 7 S, 5 BD - November 20th 2015
I think the in house S has it limits. Her goal is to be S from you and in my experience she never achieved that as I was told.
I did stay in the house. At first she thought I would leave right away and get an apartment and she would stay in the house and have basement renters to help pay for it along with my payments to her.
I didn't leave, its been 9 months and I said no to the student renters. She cant carry the house on her own and I couldn't carry the house on my own, partly because the value has gone up.
So with you moving back in you need to have a plan of course you wait till W pushes the issue. You are on her schedule. My time ran out, she contacted a lawyer and if I didn't agree to selling she was going to take me to court to get things moving.
Right now was are not fighting and things are ok, This was a reason she gave me for the S was that we were fighting but now, over all there is no fighting. There is no exchange of affection either and that is not good to model for the kids.
I think it good to move back if that is what is good for you. You will find out soon enough and change the dynamic as needed.
Me late 30's W mid 30's T 15, M 10 S4, S7 ILYBNILWY June 2015 In house S July 2015 W rings off Oct 2015 My ring off Feb 2015 Separate houses June 2016
in that case I wouldnt even be worried about how to DB in house. I would just be concerned with how you need to remain calm and set your boundary about being in the house without being seemed to come off angry.
Then be ready to manage the backlash for a few days.
when things calm down, then you can start worrying about that.
M 37 W 34
T 12 M 8 D 7 S 4
Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15
