Need practical ideas to aid my 180/Last Resort.WAW

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Hey Cadet, Sandi2 anyone else. I read the "rules" on what to do when she is in an affair. My W is so involved in her work/passion that it's like an affair. I've started turning off my "nice" steps. I took back the MBR, trying to make her more accountable for house stuff, Keep convo's short, etc. Should I tell her it's time to move out? One of the rules is she will have her cake and eat it too. My DBR coach her lack of action shows confusion, so should I keep her close and hope to influence her? Or one of the rules says

She has to suffer some type of loss (due to her decisions) in order to shake her from her fantasy fog. - If I tell her to move out will that be the kind of loss that could shake her from her fog?

Let me know your thoughts.

M