Where will we go from here

[TimR]

Cadet yes that does make more sense but I have not been in contact with her. We argued on Friday, well she screamed but since then she has ridden two hours eachway in a car with me and we were pleasant... more than just civil. I sent her and offer to take S to the doctor and when she became hostile I merely offered her the money to take him. WW became demeaning so I did not respond on Monday. I have been truly validating and have not been angry. It was not until last night when S began opening up that I got angry. Since that time we have not been in contact because you are correct, I would not be able to contain my anger and detach. It is just such a huge thing.

My problem is detaching from this. She can say mean things to me, I can detach. She can cheat and tell me it is my fault and I can detach (well I can act detached) and but on a happy face and tone of voice. But this I can't.

I am not going to do anything rash without thinking it through because any decision I make is going to effect this boy for his entire life. I have to make the RIGHT decision or at least the best decision. The decision that will protect him emotionally, physically, and financially. I am willing to sacrifice my own emotional, physical and financial stability in order to provide this for him. The issue is I have to find out what course of action best does that for him.

Thanks Cadet.