Originally Posted By: Ojap
I don't know if this is even possible. But is their ANY way that you could have 20 mins., face-to-face w/ the W?
In the invite, say something like, "I would really like to talk with you about our escalating situation. I do not wish to fight, accuse, blame, or beg for anything. We can meet in a neutral place, in public, so that we can both remain calm"


Unfortunately, anytime I try to speak with her civilly about anything of a serious nature she begins with I am trying to control her and then claims I am being nasty to her even when I am validating. Then she changes the subject to something else to attack me on and refuses to go back the real subject.

I considered asking about the mediation program but if it comes from me I cannot see a possible way she would agree. I hope if maybe the attorney asks her she will agree.

This is such a hard decision to make. I continue to obsess about over every possibility. I just don't know what I need to do. I am praying for something to tell what I need to do.

I am going to contact the school counselor and see what I can figure out. I also think he needs to speak to someone about this because I can tell how much it is bothering him. Maybe they can give me some advice too. I will also speak to my counselor if I have a chance. I see him next Thursday. Additionally, going to try and meet my priest and discuss it with him.

I don't know what else to say. I am still soooo angry! Sorry I have been neglecting others boards but just not really good company right now.


Me 41
W 33
M 2013
Suspect A 11/15
Confirm A 1/16
She moved out 2/14/16
Stepson 13
Stepson 16