Feeling lost

[collin]

SRT. I too am new here. What Ojap said really sums up my outlook too:

I will say that I too am very 'inpatient'. Kind of like..."I'm busting my tail over here, trying to improve who I am for our R. I'm reading books, I'm going to the gym, I'm posting to online forums looking for wisdom"....so WHY isn't it making a difference in HER?

You should check out Andy Stanleys talk on Starting Over. I believe it's on Netflix. It really emphasizes what Cadet said:

Things did not get to this point over night and you seem to be expecting a change in a short time.

My wife's and my relationship kind of just went off the rails and there was no way to reset the course. Maybe this is what's best for us. I am going to date my wife when she moves out. I am going to take this opportunity to be the best me I can be so I can be the best husband for her. For now, while she's still at home, I am going to be the best roommate I can be.