Where will we go from here

[Ojap]

I don't think you're moving w/ 'guns blazing'. Matter of fact...protecting the children is preeminent. I can also understand that the court involvement will be bad for them as well (though it may be necessary).

I don't know if this is even possible. But is their ANY way that you could have 20 mins., face-to-face w/ the W?

In the invite, say something like, "I would really like to talk with you about our escalating situation. I do not wish to fight, accuse, blame, or beg for anything. We can meet in a neutral place, in public, so that we can both remain calm"

I'm sure it could be worded better...but at the sit down, simply say that you "have no desire for things to 'escalate wildly'. And that engaging in custody/separation battle will be terrible for both of us...but more importantly, the boys"

This may not be an option if she can't be reasonable...but maybe worth a Last Resort before pulling the 'filing' trigger?